Voices – Parents (archive)

Below are a few of the hundreds of voices we get from parents all across the country.

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I am very thankful for this site. When I was a teenager, I was ridiculed at school for being skinny and flat. I was also a very thoughtful and reflective girl who didn't fit the world's mold and I was not popular. I was often depressed, even thought of checking out of this world. Then I realized that would allow the world view to be the only view. Years later, when I came to know GOD, I saw me through HIS eyes, not judgmental or critical. I realized that GOD has created me to be who I AM!!

 When I had cancer, I had decided to get a mastectomy without any hesitation. I have several scars all over my body, but I still see me as a viable and worthy human being. I never submit to worldly fashions or style. I like being comfortable in my own skin!! I like who I see in the mirror and I know that this is how GOD sees me. I DON'T try to please any man, ONLY THE GOD WHO LOVES ME, and THAT has made all the difference in my HAPPINESS. ALL GIRLS and WOMEN are MUCH MORE than their bodies...they are compassionate hearts, intelligent brains, and creative spirits. I AM VERY PROUD TO BE A WOMAN!!

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I saw your add at 4:45 am this morning. I was brought to tears. You see my 15 year old daughter is a recovering anorexic. She has been in treatment twice over the past 3 years. The first time saved her life and I pray the second time gave it back to her. At the heart of every eating disorder are three simple words "I am bad". Those words haunted me the first time I heard them applied to my amazing daughter. Why did she believe that she was bad and what contributed to her distorted feeling of self worth? After three years of searching, I can tell you that there is no simple answer. Unfortunately, my daughter and many other girls are listening to what the World is saying they should be rather than what God intends them to be. Count the number of times a diet or exercise commercial comes across the tv or radio in any given day. Check out at a supermarket and you are bombarded with distorted images of the "perfect female". There is so much negative noise that I became numb to it. But, my daughter hasn't. She sings or makes a noise when a weight loss commercial is playing until the channel is changed. These images do have an effect and it is not a good one and fortunately she now realizes it. So, you see, that is why I teared up at your message. My hope and prayer is that my daughter and every girl will feel worthy of being loved and loving herself the way that God intended. Keep up the good work. It makes a difference.

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I am truly excited to see a site devoted to girls and empowering their spirit rather than their beauty. I have a three year old daughter and when it becomes difficult to find clothing that covers a three year old body appropriately I think we have a problem as a society. I don't think of myself as an old fuddy duddy, but it concerns me that it seems sex is the first thing on the industry and media's mind. It's difficult to watch a primtime television show without blushing these days and now even the commercials show more than I think should be allowed. So to see someone taking the steps to change something so important to the lives of young girls is very important to me. Now in my life I am a mom first but years ago I was a girl. There are days when I still am, it all comes back. The teasing for not wearing the most popular pair of jeans, not being skinny, the boys not liking me, trying so hard to fit in, figuring out that you don't need to. My only wish is to make it easier for my daughter, hoping that she doesn't feel so much pain finding her way to the realization that all that matters is what she thinks and feels about yourself. Thank you.

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Raising girls is a difficult task when I am constantly trying to explain the images they see on television. It is a task to help them understand why the media is showing these depictions of women and then think of examples of how we are so much more. It can be exhausting, and I wonder what will happen to the girls whose parents are working hard, but are unable to help them understand all of the negative messages they are receiving through television. That is why I am thankful we can raise our voices together and as a village, raise our daughters into healthy, brilliant women!

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When I was a teenager I didn't fit in anywhere, or so it seemed, I literally did anything to fit in and try to belong. I made some real poor decisions and am still trying to pull myself back up. Now that I have two daughters of my own I am terrified that they are going to fall into some of the same patterns. I know that I am not the same person that I was; however, I am still trying to become something and learn to become a good role model for my daughters. Many days I know that I am not helping them grow to their full potential. My daughters are both amazing and beautiful girls and I want them to be what I never could be. This year is the year I chose to make a difference in my own life as well as my girls' lives!

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There aren't many things worse than having a good friend crying on your shoulder because she feels like she will never live up to the body image standards set for her by the media. Well, we don't have to comply to these standards. There is so much more to us than our bodies and our looks. Every woman and every girl is unique, so why should we have to look like somebody else? Particularly, why should we have to look like photoshopped celebrities with eating disorders who invest most of their time in perfecting as well as distorting physical appearance? If we are to be confident, then we cannot allow ourselves to believe that these unrealistic beauty standards are realistic and expected of us, nor can we allow ourselves to sit back and allow other women and girls to believe it. Confidence does NOT come from relying on your body and your looks to pull you through, but it comes from realizing your divine potential and consistently striving to reach it. I refuse to be apathetic towards this issue. I refuse to believe that it's too late to turn things around, or too late to have my voice heard. And most of all, I refuse to allow the media to define my beauty (because when I allow my beauty to come from within, it is limitless and it is infinite). I love who I am and I love how I look, regardless of my "imperfections". I will NOT stand for the corruption in the media. My voice WILL be heard, and I am not afraid, because I am confident.

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The first time i seen a commercial for this site i immediately logged on. I have an 18 month old daughter and i constantly worry about her future. especially because her father has'nt been there. But also worried about if he comes back into her life because he has very different outlooks on life and im worried she may grow up and think the things he has done wrong are cool. i hope this site may help or give me some type of guidance and also i pray this site does make an impact on the future for girls.

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Hello to all girls! I've been the one to be picked on laughed at and bullied. Keep your head up and just know the people saying these things to you are the ones with flaws! NEVER change who you really are for what others want you to be! You are loved by many even me so don't wish to be someone else or to change things! Know that you're beautiful.. It's other peoples fault if they don't see it but trust me! Someone does! You can make a difference!